Your marriage is what you make it. The quality and success of your marriage depend entirely on the effort, commitment, and conscious choices you and your spouse make together.
Marriage does not automatically work—it requires active participation from both partners. It’s a shared responsibility that demands time, energy, prayer, and effective communication.
Here are key ways to build a strong marriage:
1. Understand That God Is the Builder
“For every house is built by someone, but God is the builder of everything.” – Hebrews 3:4
This truth is foundational. God is not just a silent observer in your marriage—He is the Master Builder. Holding on to this mindset will keep your marriage rooted in what truly sustains it.
2. Build with God
If God is the builder of our marriages, then we must surrender every part of it to Him. Let God be the leading voice in your home. When storms come, His presence is what keeps you standing.
“Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” – Ecclesiastes 4:12
“Therefore, everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock… it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock.” – Matthew 7:24–27
Build your marriage on God’s Word. Obedience to His principles will keep your foundation firm.
3. Deal with Your Foundation
“If the foundations are destroyed, what can the righteous do?” – Psalm 11:3
Many marriages suffer due to unresolved spiritual and emotional foundations. Anger, insecurity, pornography, adultery, and other issues can undermine the covenant of marriage if left unchecked.
What can you do?
- Pray together: Ask God for deliverance and healing. The first step is acknowledging that there is a problem.
- Seek help from the right place: Avoid ungodly counsel. Choose God-fearing mentors or counselors who uphold biblical values.
“Again, truly I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything they ask for, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven. For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.” – Matthew 18:19–20
God responds when couples agree and seek Him together.
4. Be Intentional About Who You Invite Into Your Marriage
Surround yourselves with godly, trustworthy people who honor marriage. Be cautious about whose advice you listen to. Not everyone should have access to your relationship.
A marriage mentor is valuable—but choose wisely and prayerfully, together as a couple. When conflicts arise, aim to resolve them between yourselves first before involving others.
“If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over. But if they will not listen, take one or two others along…” – Matthew 18:15–16
Your marriage deserves protection, prayer, and people who will support it—not tear it down.
Final Thought:
A strong marriage is not stumbled upon—it is built, day by day, with God at the center. Let Him lead, let His Word guide, and let your love be shaped by truth, grace, and intentional action.
